Couples Counselling
My approach is to first understand the problems from both perspectives, examine the couples backgrounds that are influencing the current problems in their family and explore new ways, alternative beliefs, thoughts and behaviours. In order to get to this place we first build trust, then try to rebuild the trust that may be damaged by the time you seek help.
Couples therapy can be very challenging, sometimes painful and often complex. If both people are willing and prepared for positive change then it can definitely be worth it. It takes courage and a commitment. A commitment to the self and the relationship. This can carry the work forward when the work becomes demanding. It is often when we are on the brink of change that one of the partners can sabotage or pull away. When a couple is trapped in negative beliefs and or behavioural patterns it takes time to unpick them, understand them and ultimately change, adapt or let them go. We acknowledge that this takes bravery and a desire to stay in the relationship. However it is not the aim to keep a couple together, and during the course of the work it may become clearer that one or both of you decide to part. Sometimes although painful, this can be the positive change that was needed, if so I can help facilitate you in this difficult and painful process.
In my practice I use many methods and approaches: Systemic, Psychodynamic, Brief Solution Focus, Object relations, Attachment theory, Humanistic, Narrative, CBT, Structural Family Therapy and Genograms to name a few.
My approach is to first understand the problems from both perspectives, examine the couples backgrounds that are influencing the current problems in their family and explore new ways, alternative beliefs, thoughts and behaviours. In order to get to this place we first build trust, then try to rebuild the trust that may be damaged by the time you seek help.
Couples therapy can be very challenging, sometimes painful and often complex. If both people are willing and prepared for positive change then it can definitely be worth it. It takes courage and a commitment. A commitment to the self and the relationship. This can carry the work forward when the work becomes demanding. It is often when we are on the brink of change that one of the partners can sabotage or pull away. When a couple is trapped in negative beliefs and or behavioural patterns it takes time to unpick them, understand them and ultimately change, adapt or let them go. We acknowledge that this takes bravery and a desire to stay in the relationship. However it is not the aim to keep a couple together, and during the course of the work it may become clearer that one or both of you decide to part. Sometimes although painful, this can be the positive change that was needed, if so I can help facilitate you in this difficult and painful process.
In my practice I use many methods and approaches: Systemic, Psychodynamic, Brief Solution Focus, Object relations, Attachment theory, Humanistic, Narrative, CBT, Structural Family Therapy and Genograms to name a few.